Empowering young Australians to be a clear Christian voice
Thousands of social science results indicate that a healthy, stable and happy marriage is the optimal relationship for the psychological, emotional and physical well being of adults and children. Functional families are one of the strongest influences on the growth of human competence, and mental and emotional well being.
At a time when marriage and family are under constant siege, Kevin Andrews’s thoroughly researched new book provides a timely and telling case for making the strengthening of these essential bedrocks of a healthy society a number one priority.
“The tragedy of the retreat from marriage is not the billions of dollars it costs each year,” writes Kevin Andrews. “It is the personal and emotional trauma which research increasingly indicates affects many children, even into their adulthood; and the consequent diminution of health, educational opportunities, and well being, including the stability of relationships of children whose parents divorced.”
A wonderful extract from this book was published in the Australian today. A few choice morsels:
According to American academic and psychologist Blaine Fowers, writing in his book Beyond the Myth of Marital Happiness, “the romantic approach to marriage” is one of the great tragedies of our time. It has been “in many ways, a noble and exciting experiment, but we now know that it has failed, and we must find another way to strengthen this vital institution”.
Many observers have noted that as marriage has declined as an institution, its symbolic importance has increased. Says Fowers: “Our deep desire for a happy marriage leads to a strange situation in which marriage is both more valued and more fragile than ever before.”
Aristotle observed more than 2000 years ago that if children do not love their parents and family members, they would love no one but themselves. The stability and love provided in families is central to the socialisation of individuals.
Our culture needs to regain an understanding of the importance of the traditional vows to love and cherish in sickness and in health, for better or for worse, until death do us part– as well as keeping marriage between a man and a woman.
What are your thoughts about marriage? You can respond to the Adelaide Advertiser’s marriage survey here.
You can purchase Kevin Andrews’ new book, Maybe ‘I do’: Modern Marriage and the Pursuit of Happiness here.
Also read his insightful speech: marriage and the libertarian revolution.